just rewatched love actually, and for a second, made me bawl at all the appropriate scenes. gawd, im such a leak and a mess. movies like these humble me and make me want to believe in an all around loving world. but alas, movies are always made to keep hopes afloat, without actual results.
one point tho, that was realized the second round i watched this movie: the "needing" and "wanting" part. there was this one scene where the secretary flirts with her boss, coyly asking him to buy her a christmas present. and he calls her back, asking "so what it is that you need then? something in the stationary section? a stapler perhaps .. (trying to be sarcastic-funny-flirtatious)".. and the secretary answered.. "I dont want something i need, i want something i want"
for some reason, that part had the teensiest bit of electrical jolt effect on me, perhaps being really close to heart, and a personally favorite subject of mine: the quest on needing and wanting. see, i have always thought that when you are in love, in lust, infatuated etc etc with someone, it is always about needing, so much that you cant bear to be alive without that person. but the scene that keeps replaying in my head, was that one, where the analogous to needing, as a secretary, would be needing a stapler, and stapled to fill it up. analogously, that would convert to, oh, i dont know -- perhaps in the terms of husbands and wives, the husband would provide for the wife with, say, a house or money and what not. and in terms of bf/gf that could translate into bf performing obligated duties to the gf, in hope that he got the right dates properly marked down on his calendar.
but maybe i am going and thinking about it all wrong. perhaps, the term that i should coin this, love/lust/infatuation thing should be "wanting" and not needing. perhaps translated, wanting in lust and infatuation would symbolize the physical cravings and fantasies of living happily ever after, together, and wanting in long-termed, stable relationships could translated into, passion and intense love. wanting might not be too bad of a term to replace needing.
being the obsessive, compulsive, possessive person that i am, needing just made more sense. to need, for me, seem higher in urgency than to want. but maybe in another persons world, the not so obsessive, compulsive, possessive world -- wanting is probably more than likely makes more sense to beat needing on the priority list.
well, i suppose i should start opening up my eyes and seeing things how they really are, and not how they should be. and especially not in the terms i have set for myself because they are apparently too high to live by.
one point tho, that was realized the second round i watched this movie: the "needing" and "wanting" part. there was this one scene where the secretary flirts with her boss, coyly asking him to buy her a christmas present. and he calls her back, asking "so what it is that you need then? something in the stationary section? a stapler perhaps .. (trying to be sarcastic-funny-flirtatious)".. and the secretary answered.. "I dont want something i need, i want something i want"
for some reason, that part had the teensiest bit of electrical jolt effect on me, perhaps being really close to heart, and a personally favorite subject of mine: the quest on needing and wanting. see, i have always thought that when you are in love, in lust, infatuated etc etc with someone, it is always about needing, so much that you cant bear to be alive without that person. but the scene that keeps replaying in my head, was that one, where the analogous to needing, as a secretary, would be needing a stapler, and stapled to fill it up. analogously, that would convert to, oh, i dont know -- perhaps in the terms of husbands and wives, the husband would provide for the wife with, say, a house or money and what not. and in terms of bf/gf that could translate into bf performing obligated duties to the gf, in hope that he got the right dates properly marked down on his calendar.
but maybe i am going and thinking about it all wrong. perhaps, the term that i should coin this, love/lust/infatuation thing should be "wanting" and not needing. perhaps translated, wanting in lust and infatuation would symbolize the physical cravings and fantasies of living happily ever after, together, and wanting in long-termed, stable relationships could translated into, passion and intense love. wanting might not be too bad of a term to replace needing.
being the obsessive, compulsive, possessive person that i am, needing just made more sense. to need, for me, seem higher in urgency than to want. but maybe in another persons world, the not so obsessive, compulsive, possessive world -- wanting is probably more than likely makes more sense to beat needing on the priority list.
well, i suppose i should start opening up my eyes and seeing things how they really are, and not how they should be. and especially not in the terms i have set for myself because they are apparently too high to live by.
read my post on weltaanschaungen.spoken here
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