hehe, i finally figured it out.

or rather, my mom did for me. she and my dad would like to throw a big, huge, malaysian wedding back home, one where blocks and blocks of streets would be closed off to the public, out front at my dad's huge house, and mike and i will be sitting on this throne-like thing, in our malay garb, while people/guests throw rice and all sorts of other things at our faces. heheh! it's gonna be fun and funny =) talked about having the kompang and the bunga telur too, with the nasi minyak .. omg, im SO excited! yum yum ... mmmmmMMMmmm

so looks like my wedding the first time round will span over two years, one being a more casual, demure reception in medinah, and the second being a rowdier, crowdier, and traditionaler event =) oooOoo i can invite all my old friends from back home, now THAT would be COOL! woooo, yeay meeeee....