my current living situation is the weirdest one ever. and i think what i am about to complain and/or discuss transcends just problems encountered when you cohabitate with a loved one -- i think it could be generalized onto bigger things, such as the big and scary M-arriage counterpart.
when you live with someone who is as reclusive as my boyfriend, you will know that its very hard to interact with them. and as much as they love your companionship, there are times when they could be locked in a cellar in the basement and wont make a peep for another week or so because they relish the dark, dampened, lonesome encroaching space. there is something comforting to these creatures, about being alone and not having to worry about saying the wrong or doing the wrong thing. there is no need for social niceties (even between lovers) and there is no need for pretense. i understand this completely after living with someone like this -- but this is the thing, he isnt the only one like this. there must be other men who are as much of a recluse like he is, and who LIVE with a loved one. so its not that weird of a situation.
the weird part about it is this -- how on earth will anyone with this type of personality ever get involved with another human being, and want to cohabitate, or even worse, get married to that one person and having to DEAL with LIVING with another living, breathing, talking human being, who, by nature, is a very social creature (save the select few like himself)? i mean, understandably, when one couple gets married, they tend to live in a bigger space, ie not a one bedroomed apartment, condo or house. but what if you are strapped for cash, there is only one bedroom in the entire house, and no other living space but one that is opened to all? then what? do you just tolerate the other person? is that the key -- toleration? but what if you dont have the patience to tolerate? do you then move out and live elsewhere, and just see each other when you can handle each other's antiques? what kind of relationship is that? reminds me of my own parents. one parent lived in one state, while another lived in a state on the OPPOSITE end of the country. makes great families *smirks*
or perhaps it is good practise to heed old adages -- dont date someone radically different. but i think if i had to date someone like myself, i would kill that other person, and then eventually kill me, because i cant stand the thought of going out with myself. i mean, i love me, mind you -- but dealing with TWO of me's simultaneously? eeks!
the dilemma is this really .. on a more personal basis now. do i set my heart on moving on after i move out this september ie. not think about moving back in with a boyfriend, any boyfriend, after this.. or do i find a bigger place to move in with him? and risk having him living out of his office, never to see him except during meal times (that is, IF he remembers to come out?)
when you live with someone who is as reclusive as my boyfriend, you will know that its very hard to interact with them. and as much as they love your companionship, there are times when they could be locked in a cellar in the basement and wont make a peep for another week or so because they relish the dark, dampened, lonesome encroaching space. there is something comforting to these creatures, about being alone and not having to worry about saying the wrong or doing the wrong thing. there is no need for social niceties (even between lovers) and there is no need for pretense. i understand this completely after living with someone like this -- but this is the thing, he isnt the only one like this. there must be other men who are as much of a recluse like he is, and who LIVE with a loved one. so its not that weird of a situation.
the weird part about it is this -- how on earth will anyone with this type of personality ever get involved with another human being, and want to cohabitate, or even worse, get married to that one person and having to DEAL with LIVING with another living, breathing, talking human being, who, by nature, is a very social creature (save the select few like himself)? i mean, understandably, when one couple gets married, they tend to live in a bigger space, ie not a one bedroomed apartment, condo or house. but what if you are strapped for cash, there is only one bedroom in the entire house, and no other living space but one that is opened to all? then what? do you just tolerate the other person? is that the key -- toleration? but what if you dont have the patience to tolerate? do you then move out and live elsewhere, and just see each other when you can handle each other's antiques? what kind of relationship is that? reminds me of my own parents. one parent lived in one state, while another lived in a state on the OPPOSITE end of the country. makes great families *smirks*
or perhaps it is good practise to heed old adages -- dont date someone radically different. but i think if i had to date someone like myself, i would kill that other person, and then eventually kill me, because i cant stand the thought of going out with myself. i mean, i love me, mind you -- but dealing with TWO of me's simultaneously? eeks!
the dilemma is this really .. on a more personal basis now. do i set my heart on moving on after i move out this september ie. not think about moving back in with a boyfriend, any boyfriend, after this.. or do i find a bigger place to move in with him? and risk having him living out of his office, never to see him except during meal times (that is, IF he remembers to come out?)
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